Finding The One

Neo: What is happening to me?

Morpheus: You are the One, Neo. You see, you may have spent the last few years looking for me, but I have spent my entire life looking for you. 
The Matrix (1999)
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In an ordinary place, one can find the one person to make his life extraordinary.

I can’t recall which movie this tagline came from, but is it really difficult to find the one for you? And for the lucky ones who have found their partners in life, how was it? Was it easy for you? And how long did it take for you to find the one?

No offense meant to my colleagues, but it’s a running joke (half-meant, half-not) among us girls that in our workplace, it seems there is a dearth of prospects if you’re looking for a boyfriend. Wala kang mahahanap. And if there would be papa-bles or crushables, most of them are already taken. Abi, a dear friend, said she hoped to meet "him" when she went to graduate school kasi nga walang mahanap sa office LOL.

But where do you really go, or what do you really do in search for Mr. (or Ms.) Right. Do you look for him (her), or are you preparing or paving the way to be found? Are you just waiting to be found?

Most people find their partners in school or in the office. Sometimes, you don’t realize that The One is just there all along. Sometimes you  have to get out there to meet a lot of people. There’s really no single rule for everybody.  Maybe you’ve known each other for quite some time but the sparks came a little bit later. Or maybe you felt the chemistry as soon as you met each other. Either way, finding someone you like is one thing. And finding someone to whom you would invest your feelings, time and effort is another. Some people prefer the fast lane, falling in love in a flash; while others would prefer taking their time, wait a bit, taking it slow. Sometimes, you find The One when you are not looking. Finding a person you can be happy with (or who will be happy with you) is a challenge – one who will feel the same way you do, one who will spend time with you, accept you, and understand you. Sometimes your partner comes into your life unexpectedly and for no apparent reason. Sometimes, the stranger beside you would turn out to be the most important person in your life. Or perhaps, he’s always been a friend and you never knew he would be more than that in the end.

As a song goes, there are 8 billion people in this world, but there’s only one you will ever need.

~TheGoodGirl

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