Something Stupid Like...I Like You

"Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you."
Greg Behrendt, He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

A simple question, such as “Do you like me?” can be complicated between two people of the opposite sex, as I found out recently.

A girl feels the need to ask this question because:

1. She does not want to assume that the guy likes her.
2. She wants to be sure, wants assurance that yes, the guy likes her.
3. She wants to hear it, straight from the horse’s mouth, period.
4. She wants to know where she stands.
5. She does not know the answer, period.

On the other hand, a guy does not reply or sees no need to answer the question, because:

1. He does not have to say it, as his “Action speaks louder than words.”  
2. He does not want to commit.  
3. He is playing safe.  
4. He does not like the girl.  
5. He does not know the answer, period.

Why do people make things complicated, when in fact, a simple yes or no answer may suffice. But I guess that’s what makes men different from women. Sometimes, you just have to read between the lines. But sometimes, you may read too much. Or read them wrong. There are those “How to Know if a Guy Likes You“ quizzes  and in real life, you really can’t figure them out. Frustrating yes? I forgot who said (or wrote) it but it goes something like this: “It took a long time, but I've finally figured it out. When it comes to men who are romantically interested in you, it's really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do.”

In the movie He's Just Not That Into You (2009), Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) said: “...sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave… knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.

In the same movie, Alex (Justin Long) said:  “So trust me when I say if a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a sh*t, he genuinely doesn't give a sh*t. No exceptions.”

With a woman, it’s either black or white. You don’t have to wait for signs, you don’t have to guess. She either likes you or not. No in-betweens. No middle ground. No grey areas. She says it. She shows it. Plain. And pure. And simple.

With men, they could say one thing, then another, then act inconsistently. Confusing. Irritating. Exasperating.

But we like them anyway, yes?

Unfortunately.

~TheGoodGirl

Image from: http://www.collegehumor.com/post/6704589/flowchart-do-you-like-me